The love that lasts the whole of life is love real
In the streets of love the real find of all: there are brats to breastfeed and lull you, as you are a romantic dinner by candlelight, stolen, almost by miracle, to the needs of the family. There are no fees to pay, washing machines to fill and cloths to be ironed, but also exotic travel and sunset on the shore of the sea to enjoy. If you do not have rare moments of tension and stress, are frequent, the merry tables. Often the smell of red roses, a gift for Valentine's day and joins the smell of the sauce bubbling in the pot. Often, a kiss given of escape to the partner is also contended by the children of noisy and irrelevant.
This type of love can be born after the marriage or when the two partners came to a deep mutual knowledge, that can happen even before the wedding, if the courtship was long.
Reduced or resized the initial passion of love of the phase of falling in love, this is replaced by the estimate, by the sympathy and from the reality of real love .
This type of love is much different and much more complex of falling in love. Despite this, very often among young people, but also among older people, it speaks both of the one and of the other as if they were synonyms.
The life of a couple: in conjugal love, and the three components: intimacy, passion and commitment, and are well balanced.
If, as we have said, the component of commitment is considerable, so that the love will last over time, and the intimacy made of dialogue, verbal, listening, but also of gestures must necessarily be very deep and rich. The same is true for the component passion. Giving mutual pleasure with enthusiasm, with joy and generosity bonus, enriches and helps us face the many difficulties of daily life.
The connection with the reality.
Conjugal love is a feeling closely linked to reality. It is not born, then, as alienation or deformation of the lived real, is born and lives consciously, objectively recognized
The gradualness of the process.
Another characteristic of this type of love is the gradualness of the process. This sentiment explodes a sudden, like falling in love or romantic love, but increases gradually along with the intimacy between the two people, and an increase in the things that are shared, the dreams, the memories, the thoughts, the achievements but also losses. Every reality and every event that took place in the town, hand in hand, supporting each other, increase intimacy, and then also the love.
For this it is important that, with the right intensity, you create a lived-in, and we accompany you from the beginning in the various experiences that life presents .
The link with the will.
Another significant difference is in its origin and in its growth.
Falling in love , is born , grows , decreases, and ends without which in us there is a true will, if not that of listening to the sensations that biologically produced , we can say that falling in love is free, or even biological.
But love is closely related to our commitment to our will, capacity, and availability, and then The birth, the growth or decline and the end of falling in love does not depend on us. Are not subject to our will, because falling in love is “free”. Takes us suddenly, as suddenly can disappear. Conjugal love, however, is closely tied to our commitment to our will, capacity, and availability.
Therefore, we want to love that person, and, then, we have our heart to this feeling. We want this love to grow and, therefore, with our words, with our actions, our behaviors, with the thousand of attention that we put in place, we do everything to achieve this goal.
We want this love to last our whole life so we strive to ensure that you become more and more strong and sturdy, so as to overcome the snares of the time and events that may affect it and corroderlo. And if, for any reason, the ratio should be sick of us we, at times, personally and directly, at other times, if only we do not succeed in the attempt, and I have the courage and the determination that was enough for help from others.
The vision for the future.
Characteristic of this type of love is also the planning. There is only today but there is committed and the program for tomorrow's far away in time: you want to design a shared life, supporting each other; you plan to buy a home, using the work, savings, and sacrifices common; it is planned to have children and then grandchildren to take care of, care for, educate, and then accompany you to the streets of the world, and to share hopes, dreams and realities, sad or happy they are.
The solidarity and mutual aid.
The solidarity and mutual aid are the basic characteristics of real love. In this type of love there is a concern active in relation to other members of the family who try to protect, and to whom we feel responsible.
If we analyze the conjugal love, we find an intense need for closeness , so much so that you consider the other person very important and indeed essential to their own lives, but also for own happiness.
Our choice makes us correponsabili of a new and original human reality and co-responsibility to defend , protect and reinforce it with such force, the independence , the autonomy , the stability and the strength of this union
Next to the couple, real love puts the openness to life, and then look in the children another reason for the enrichment, both personal and as a couple. The children, in conjugal love, are desired, sought, desired, as with them, the couple's love produces its best fruits offering to life and to humanity, and from them draws nourishment, purpose, strength and support.
The duration.
Another characteristic of real love is that of being a very strong feeling, durable and stable over time. If falling in love or passion can last from a few hours or a few days, or a few years, real love lasts a lifetime.
His needs.
Even if you in to live this sweet, lovely feeling, there is a lot of joy and so much desire of pleasure and give pleasure, it is formed and mature through daily actions, sacrifices, and sacrifices, and sometimes suffering.
Couples who choose to live in the real love , they tend more and more to assess their individual acts, their attitudes and their intentions, as a function of the totality of the couple and the resonance of the effects that this love will have on the children. This is because people, in the real love , commit to and responsibly working for the health of the couple and of the family.
His gifts
Real love is a feeling that enriches the two, but also the society in a profound way, and stable.
It emerges forcefully that real love is the center and the engine of the emotional world. We understand that only by living with the fullness of this love, he may be born to the new generations the opportunity to live in a fully human sense is the reality of the individual and the social and relational. In fact, no real love, and then without the family that comes from this, there is opportunity to develop a human life, mature, serene, well-balanced, free from discomfort, from psychological disorders, as well as from self-centeredness.
We have said that real love is born, grows and develops in the perspective of human procreation. This does not mean that procreation is a must, but that as you embark on this journey together, we want to share the love that you have towards the other, even with children. You want to generously open their hearts because others may drink of the love that you feel and live.
The team
As a team, in the real love, the one trying to help the other, the one supports the other and support the other, in its difficulties in dealing with the problems of everyday life, in search of solutions. When this feeling is rich and strong the feeling of winning two and losing two.
The well-being of others becomes their well-being, and then each of the two is concerned with the joy and the serenity of the other as if they were his joy and your peace. When this feeling is rich and strong, the other is important, not because he can give me something, but because it is an important part of me. Show respect for the other is not to respect myself. Love and pay a lot of attention to the other is to love and pay attention to me. Be the champions of the other, take care of the other, protect the other, to dedicate their life to another, search for the physical, spiritual, and psychological support are essential to have me and our family care for you and I and our family's well-being, for me and our family security.
The esteem and mutual respect are key components in this type of love. The more high the esteem and respect, stronger the relationship, the more the couple cements of this love.
His birth.
Real love can arise in various ways: you can add the friendship; it can replace the of friendships; it can arise from an occasional knowledge; can take the place of the fire of love; it can, as in India, in China and in many eastern people, start in the same moment in which the project starts with a double bed or, if it is from the other planned and organized, he is pursued by us, managed and lived.
Love is not a remedy for the fear of being alone , is a craving only temporary , and is not attachment , love is not statistical, love is not moralism , it is not settle, is not the answer uncertain , it is not, as long it is not, but if it ends
true love just me and you our hugs that protect us from wind , the love is there , the true love looks forward We are, me and you forever !
