Love coach: magic and illusion of falling in Love
I would like to share with you this article that I think is very interesting.
“Falling in love can appear in our life, such as a lightning strike or an evolution of a relationship of friendship, our relationship will then be able to burn quickly or last a lifetime, to fade into the monotony or maintain the vitality of the initial.
Each one of us can fall in love with mode and at different times, and the fate of our relationships depends on the knowledge of ourselves, from our ability to communicate and from the contingencies external to the pair (societies, cultures, constraints), but to fall in love is without a doubt a universal fact that disregards any possible difference in the socio-cultural, social, epoch-making.
Falling in love, bursts in with a vital force that separates a past experience is accomplished by a future full of unknowns, but extremely interesting.
The moment in which we meet the other and they fall in love, it represents the beginning of a welfare state that we wish would never end.
We feel content, safe, and in harmony with all that surrounds us; the encounter with the other removes the veil of grey that she could not let us see the true colours of the world that surrounds us and allows us to breathe and enjoy the smells and tastes, we feel liberated and contact with our authentic self. At this time, the “magic” we can see the essence of things, and also what appears to us as negative, we feel as a passenger.
This state of rebirth is characterized by spontaneity, and a desire for authenticity and purity. For this reason, we feel the need to tell the stories of the past and set us free because of the other, to take care of old wounds, get naked.
However, and paradoxically, it is also the time when we try to give a picture of us, “perfect”, using our best parts and the masks that the most appropriate and alluring; of course, the other follows the same behaviour, putting in place a number of strategies seductive.
Who of us hasn't it happened on the first date (but also much more try to show our best part ? We are driven to improve, but we are ready to pretend, to exaggerate our capacity in order to be attractive; we tend to this perfection to satisfy all the desires of the beloved, as we wish for the other to hear and grant our: seduciamo and become divinized the other.
Also the body of the other, seems to us to the divine, and we feel a strong and constant attraction, erotic and sexual.
Innamorandoci we left for a journey of the soul.
but when we start a relationship we really think you've reached our destination? In reality we are at the first step of a scale that can take us places that are bright but also underground places.
In this situation, the consciousness leaves the soul games alone while watching, waiting for his moves .
Depending on availability, to allow the soul to do its work on us, we can go through different cycles , or continue to riciclarci through the first stage does not change in different subsequent reports and still so in next contaminandoci without ever being able to know what happens when consciousness and the soul will take in hand to travel together , never evolve .
The first cycle is that of falling in love we are in an ecstatic experience and we feel we have reached our completeness; our personality feels confident to achieve his dreams and to satisfy their needs.
In the next cycle, we recognize and we want to officially announce to the world that surrounds us: our relationship is in the first cycle of Commitment. We can get married, live together or simply share moments or spaces, in any case, is the moment in which we take a mutual commitment to continue the relationship that we are living in the future. We have a vision of the future with a very romantic, a picture perfect and unchanging of our life as a couple, I'm perfect, you're perfect, our house is, or will be, as we have always dreamed about perfect! We will have children from perfect, we do not litigheremo ever, we are going to like the same movies and the same readings, we have the same friends, cute, and parents-in-law, adorable, a cat, a dog, a garden is always green and flowery and we will be always smiling, the relationship will all be perfect!
But all this is impossible! Sooner or later will come to light, and even our respective worst parts.
The castle of golden sand that our mind has built will be flooded by the sea and then we will have to choose to rebuild it with a material more resistant or starting another on another beach.
Sooner or later all relationships go through this third cycle , that of the Crisis.
Thus we are catapulted back into reality, and where the land begins to Crash it, the “fire test” (the fourth stage) that there is disorienting, and takes us into the Chaos (fifth phase) in which we have the feeling that there is no way out.
But if we abandon our expectations, our relationship can take the direction of the Awakening (sixth cycle): is the moment in which it is possible to have a clear vision, that is, we become aware of the state of things and, through it, reborn as a couple.
At this point, we can enter in the last cycle, that of Transformation.
I don't know where I'm going , not yet, but I go where you go and I will follow you .
I don't know what you have, but I know what you're the one that gets to me Stay close to me and every thing you'll see, with time, everything will come!
The love coach can accompany you on your path of transformation and growth in the pair.
